Relationships

Are you struggling to make relationships work? Whether it be a romantic relationship, friendship, work colleagues we can all sometimes struggle to find the glue that holds a relationship together. Relationships, like a beautiful garden or a classic car, require constant attention.

Sometimes, no matter how hard we try, that long-lasting and trusting bond between two people seems to elude us. Things start off well but over time seem to slip from our grasp, leading to relationship breakdown, divorce,  stress at work, estranged family members and friendships that wither on the vine. In these situations it might be helpful to talk to a therapist to try and understand why things are not working for you. Do you notice familiar patterns of behaviour playing out over time? Do you feel that you are always getting into relationships with the wrong person, be it a toxic lover or “Frenemy” and you almost feel that you are sending out signals to the world that seems to attract wrong ‘un’s to you?  Is there an element of self-sabotage in your behaviour? Are you fighting battles that seem to have echo’s in the past, a product of an unhappy childhood?

I will help you work through these problems and help you get a better understanding of what is happening in your relationships so that you can fix things. If you are experiencing awkwardness in the bedroom, a difficulty in communicating your needs and expressing yourself, or one of you seems to have lost that loving feeling I can help you work through that confusion and find a way forward. If you find your partner or friend only wants to take and not give I can help you to understand why that might be, so that you can enjoy more nourishing and supportive relationships in the future. And I also provide couples counselling, a safe space where the two of you can help resolve your issues.

Deeper issues and physical problems

Occasionally our relationships are not working because of more deep-rooted psychological problems. Sexual relationships can be difficult because of inhibition, fear of intimacy, problems achieving orgasm, nymphomania and confusions around sexuality and/or gender identity. We can find ourselves trapped in a toxic relationship with an abusive or narcissistic partner, not understanding how we got here and why we can not seem to let go. Or a relationship has ended but we are unable to heal. As a therapist I offer you a welcoming, supportive and non-judgemental space to discuss your problems.

Intimacy and self-esteem

If we are not feeling great about ourselves, undesirable perhaps, or our hormones have been affected by childbirth or the menopause, these are also things that can switch off our desire. Please read my contribution to this article about libido in Metro magazine:

How can hypnosis help?

At my sessions, hypnosis is not compulsory. Some people just wish to talk through their issues. Often though, I combine hypnosis with talking therapy

“Hypnosis helps you to explore the underlying forces, triggers and deeper themes in your relationship, helping you to break unhelpful patterns of behaviour and find a more positive, healthy way forward”